The Illusion of Promises: Narcissists and Their New Partners
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Chapter 1: The False Promises of Narcissists
Narcissists often enter new relationships with a deluded sense of optimism, genuinely believing that their new partner will not make the same mistakes as their previous ones. They lack the self-awareness to recognize that their own behavior is the root cause of past failures.
Their tendency to assign blame to their partners is consistent and unwavering.
They refuse to acknowledge their role in the demise of their relationships, maintaining a narrative where they are the innocent victims. Narcissists cling to the belief that they are not only normal but superior, perpetuating an unyielding victim mentality. In their eyes, they have suffered at the hands of their partners, never the other way around.
Every time they abandon one partner for another, they convince themselves that this new person will bring the happiness they've long sought.
This leads to a phase known as love bombing, where they shower their new partner with extravagant promises and plans for a wonderful future—plans they are ultimately incapable of fulfilling.
Section 1.1: The Cycle of Love Bombing
During love bombing, a narcissist will go to great lengths to impress their partner’s family and friends, even pretending to embrace the role of a devoted partner and step-parent. They believe that they will not only meet but exceed the expectations of those around them, displaying an unprecedented level of charm and kindness.
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Section 1.2: The Inevitable Disappointment
However, deep down, they remain unaware that such aspirations are destined to fail. They are caught in a moment of illusion, convinced they will live up to the grand visions they have painted for their partner.
Never assume that a narcissist perceives situations as you would. Their thought processes are often far from logical.
Chapter 2: The Self-Centered Reality of Narcissists
Even if a narcissist were capable of foreseeing the inevitable fallout of their actions, it would not concern them. The emotional pain inflicted on their partner, friends, or family is insignificant in their eyes.
This self-centered perspective leaves them unconcerned about the havoc they wreak on the lives of those around them. Their primary focus is solely on themselves.