Embracing Control: Why Just Going With the Flow Might Fail You
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Chapter 1: The Misconception of Going With the Flow
Many people equate “going with the flow” with a stress-free existence. However, this mindset can lead to stagnation and missed opportunities. For instance, if I had merely accepted this approach, I would have never completed a half-marathon, published my work, or generated income through my business.
After extensive brainstorming about my PR venture, Geeks and Experts, I eventually launched a rudimentary version of the service and started earning revenue—not because I was drifting along, but due to a self-imposed deadline I established to validate my concept.
I believe that embracing the flow can be beneficial only when circumstances are beyond our control. Here’s why I think this mentality is often overrated and detrimental to progress:
Section 1.1: Lack of Purpose
Without a clear goal, making headway becomes challenging. For example, if you never aspire to run a marathon, chances are you won't even attempt a 5K. When there is no aim, there's no path to follow!
Instead of floating through life, it’s crucial to set your sights on your objectives and embrace the process of trial and error. Sure, you might hit dead-ends or face detours, but this journey is essential for discovering the right path.
Takeaway: Establish both short-term and long-term goals. Break them down into manageable tasks, seek mentorship, or even create a vision board to visualize your aspirations. What are your ambitions?
Section 1.2: Missed Opportunities
Adopting a passive approach can lead to overlooking valuable chances that may be right in front of you. These opportunities can include learning new skills or refining existing ones. They are abundant, but only if you’re prepared to seize them.
Before I set a deadline for revenue generation, I was simply going with the flow, waiting to fine-tune my product and find the right connections.
Go With The Flow (w/ Lyrics) - YouTube
This video encourages viewers to embrace life as it comes, but it’s crucial to strike a balance between acceptance and proactive engagement.
Takeaway: Step out of your comfort zone and actively seek opportunities for growth, whether by volunteering for new projects or enrolling in classes that intrigue you.
Chapter 2: The Importance of Personal Development
Section 2.1: Stagnation Through Comfort
Going with the flow can lead to personal stagnation. We might fall into complacency, believing we have mastered everything, which blinds us to further learning opportunities.
Learning can be a humbling experience. Encountering challenges reveals the vastness of what remains to be understood. For instance, I discovered my passion for writing only after taking a creative writing course in New York.
Takeaway: Foster a growth mindset. Engage in activities that challenge your existing beliefs, such as attending networking events or seeking constructive feedback from peers.
Section 2.2: The Illusion of Control
You are ultimately responsible for your emotions and decisions—whether they pertain to your physical health, mental state, or professional life.
It's easy to fall into routines merely out of habit. For example, it's tempting to skip meal prep or exercise when you could be actively working toward your goals.
Takeaway: Own your choices. What you consume, read, and engage with can shape your reality. Practice mindfulness to align your actions with your values and take proactive steps to create the life you envision.
Just Go With The Flow - Alan Watts On The Universe - YouTube
This video emphasizes the interconnectedness of life and the importance of finding balance between acceptance and action.
By shifting from passive acceptance to active participation, you can reclaim control over your life and enact meaningful changes without feeling overwhelmed.
In my journey as the founder of Geeks and Experts, I explore topics surrounding PR for startups, founder well-being, and the intricacies of writerpreneurship. Connect with me on Medium, Twitter, or LinkedIn to join the conversation!