Chapter 1: Understanding Your Desires

How can you maintain your passion for your dreams and aspirations?

From a young age, we often learn to relinquish our wants. While there's some truth to this—acknowledging that not every desire can be fulfilled immediately—it can lead to the formation of "bad habits" as we mature.

Finding contentment with what we have doesn't diminish our ambitions or our drive to advance in life, even regarding our "wants."

It's essential to clarify that I am not endorsing the "grandmother's syndrome" as depicted in the tale of the fisherman and the goldfish, where desires are granted without consideration. Instead, I advocate for the healthy pursuit of our aspirations.

How does this process unfold?

We may yearn for something right now, but our choices can be limited for various reasons. This often leads us to compile a list of justifications for why we can live without it. Many might say, "I managed without it before," leading to an abundance of affirmations on how to cope without our desires.

When obstacles arise, our wishes may become suppressed on a conscious level, remaining buried in the subconscious. This can lead to feelings of frustration, resentment, and a sense of betrayal when our desires go unfulfilled.

So, what should you do in such moments?

1. Write down 25–50 reasons for wanting your desire. Yes! What will this aspiration bring into your life? What new experiences, sensations, or states of being will emerge? Consider how your life could change if this wish were realized. This exercise helps solidify your desires and forms stable thought patterns that can begin to manifest in the physical world. Remember, the next step is crucial. The wait is usually not prolonged. Start acting on your desires—big or small, costly or inexpensive, feasible or seemingly impossible. If it's something you truly want, it's essential!

Keep in mind the fundamental principles:

• Every desire has its own timeline for fulfillment—what works for one may not work for another.
• Desires exist beyond the material realm; they do not have a tangible form. Instead, they offer us emotional and sensory experiences. For instance, you might already own a car, but a different model could provide you with a new level of comfort or excitement.

Inner resistance can hinder the realization of your aspirations. You may deeply desire something but hold an internal belief that you don't deserve it. This mindset can obstruct the attainment of your goals.

While humility is a valuable trait, it can also diminish your desires. It's all too easy to downplay or outright dismiss them in favor of compromise.

In this insightful video, Mel Robbins discusses techniques to achieve your dreams and goals. Learn how to harness your inner strength and motivation to pursue what you truly desire.

Chapter 2: Setting Goals and Overcoming Barriers

If you feel lost and unsure about your goals, this video by Mel Robbins provides valuable advice on how to identify what you truly want and take actionable steps to achieve it.