Chapter 1: Understanding the Challenge

Why has life become increasingly challenging, filled with stress and insecurities? This isn't just a personal struggle; it's a widespread issue affecting many.

While I may come across as overly wise or philosophical, I've faced my share of anxiety, confusion, and self-doubt. As a child, I was constantly bombarded with criticism, leading to feelings of inadequacy. I often compared myself unfavorably to other girls in my family and doubted my intelligence.

Fast forward nearly four years, and I can now confidently say that I am as beautiful as a flower and capable of being a talented writer. My journey over the last few years has been tumultuous, beginning with self-doubt and fear, but has culminated in a peaceful and fulfilling life. Here are three crucial lessons I’ve learned along the way.

Lesson 1: Avoid Being a Source of Negativity

Most of us harbor big dreams—whether to become doctors, engineers, or authors. However, it’s essential not to become the type of person who highlights others' flaws to seem impressive or sympathetic.

When reconnecting with someone, avoid making remarks like, “Oh, your acne is back,” or “Did you gain weight?” Everyone is aware of their own issues; they don't need you to point them out. Our words possess the power to either uplift or hurt, so it’s vital to choose kindness.

If you consistently speak negatively to others, you may be inadvertently harming the child within you who has also faced hurt. True healing comes not just from self-love but from lifting those around you.

To find inner peace, make an effort to uplift others instead of tearing them down. Your treatment of others often mirrors your own internal state.

Lesson 2: Embrace True Freedom

What transformed my life into something akin to paradise was learning to not take things personally. It took time, but I eventually realized that others’ words and actions reflect their own experiences rather than define me.

Often, we assume that people are judging us when, in reality, they are preoccupied with their own lives. For instance, you might feel self-conscious when you think others are laughing at you, only to discover they were simply interacting with someone else entirely.

The harsh truth is that you’re likely judging yourself more harshly than anyone else would. To find peace and excel in your pursuits, let go of judgments—both from others and from yourself. Remember, you’re just one individual among many; don’t take life too seriously.

Lesson 3: Keep Your Dreams Alive

How many aspirations have you let fade away due to self-doubt? It’s disheartening to witness the birth of an exciting idea only to let it die from procrastination and negativity.

I was once guilty of this. I would question my abilities until inspiration slipped away. However, my life took a positive turn when I committed to just one pursuit: writing.

I began my writing journey on Medium in 2021, despite my insecurities. After crafting over 300 articles, I achieved recognition as a bestselling author. This success stemmed from giving myself a chance and consistently nurturing my passion.

I encourage you to do the same. Choose one idea or interest, invest your confidence in it, and work on it daily. With patience and consistency, you can achieve a life beyond your wildest dreams.

Conclusion: A Life of Peace and Success Awaits

You have the right to a life that is both successful and serene. The first step is to step outside your own head, engage with the world, and understand that your aspirations are within reach. When your heart and mind align, success and peace can coexist harmoniously.