Chapter 1: The Essence of Identity

Understanding our lives through stories and myths can lead to new insights.

The inquiry into our individual identities can be approached in numerous ways. In our daily routines, we may feel a clear sense of self, perceiving ourselves as consistent individuals over the years without much contemplation. Yet, upon deeper reflection, each life reveals unexpected facets. Personally, I hold a self-image as a law-abiding citizen, embodying constructive and equitable values. However, there are instances where my actions contradict this perception—like speeding on the road or exhibiting favoritism toward certain individuals.

One of my preferred perspectives on identity comes from Danish philosopher Søren Kierkegaard, who proposed that we define ourselves through our actions. This viewpoint is fascinating, as it suggests that our identities are shaped more by our behaviors than by our words.

Despite my appreciation for Kierkegaard's perspective, I believe there is more to explore. While Kierkegaard is often viewed as a precursor to existentialism, another interesting angle arises from postmodern thought. This perspective suggests that we are not singular beings with a stable core personality; rather, our identities are fluid and contingent upon the circumstances we find ourselves in. We display varied traits in different contexts, which may appear inconsistent when analyzed through a traditional lens. For example, at work, I may adopt a more formal demeanor, whereas in my role as a father or husband, I reveal a different side of myself.

Another significant aspect of postmodern thought, particularly in social sciences, is the focus on narrative. Everything can be interpreted as a text, which allows for a deeper analysis of our personal stories. The narrative we construct about ourselves can create a cohesive understanding that transcends the isolated events of our lives. This unifying narrative can elevate seemingly disconnected experiences into a more meaningful whole.

This concept is often reflected in autobiographies. Recently, I explored the works of Swiss philosopher Jean-Jacques Rousseau, who illustrates how later events in his life can be understood through earlier experiences. He attempts to make sense of his life through storytelling, which resonates with both him and his audience. As Kierkegaard wisely noted, "Life must be lived forward but understood backward."

Not long ago, I discovered a website called Urania that discusses self-mythology, which is described as the art of crafting and embracing a personal narrative that enhances one's life story. I found this idea captivating. The website highlights the positive impact that creating such a myth can have and proposes a five-step process for developing a personal myth.

While I am somewhat skeptical about the direct correlation between a personal myth and the empowerment touted by the website, I do believe that such narratives can offer benefits. Allowing myself to contemplate who I am through a story may provide a fresh perspective for deriving meaning in my life. Summarizing the pivotal events in my life thus far, understanding how they have influenced my journey, and determining how these insights can guide my future choices may foster a new approach to self-reflection—an approach I find necessary.

Chapter 2: Living Benefits and Personal Growth

In this chapter, we explore the transformative power of narratives through the lens of living benefits.

The first video titled "A Living Benefits Story - Latasha McCray" delves into how personal narratives can guide individuals through their journeys and contribute to their growth.

The second video, "Rickson & Bianca - A Living Benefits Story," further illustrates the impact of personal stories in shaping our understanding of self and life experiences.