Reflecting on Personal Experiences

Personally, I have always found it challenging to accept compliments or gratitude from others. My instinct was often to dismiss, downplay, or deflect the praise, as I felt uneasy with the attention. For example, when someone praised my cooking, I might respond, "Oh, it didn't turn out as I had hoped." Similarly, if I received thanks for assistance, I’d say, "You did all the hard work!" After a presentation, I might remark, "I was quite nervous; I'm just relieved it's over."

This tendency to shift focus or downplay compliments not only makes me feel uncomfortable but also creates an awkward atmosphere for the person offering praise. They are extending a gift, and deflecting it can diminish its value.

Next time someone expresses gratitude or compliments you, consider responding differently.

Tip 1: Simply Say "Thank You"

Begin by saying "Thank You" and allow that moment to resonate. Though it may feel challenging, you might be surprised by the empowerment that comes from acknowledging the positive effect you've had on someone.

Tip 2: Keep It Simple

Avoid the urge to elaborate. I once excitedly shared with a friend how I accepted a compliment by saying, "Thank you, that's very generous of you." She smiled and reminded me, "Have you tried just saying 'Thank You'?" This realization struck me: I was still deflecting.

Tip 3: Appreciate the Gift

Recognize that the compliment is a genuine gift from the giver. Dismissing or downplaying it can minimize its significance. While accepting it may initially feel uncomfortable, embracing this gift can enhance the experience for both you and the compliment-giver.

The next time someone offers you a compliment or gratitude, consciously reply with just "Thank You." You may find that it feels surprisingly rewarding.

This video titled "FIND IT DIFFICULT TO ACCEPT COMPLIMENTS? HERE ARE 3 SIMPLE TIPS" explores practical techniques for accepting compliments and understanding the psychology behind our reactions.