Embrace Your Freedom: 6 Principles for Living Life on Your Own Terms
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Understanding the Constraints of Society
From a young age, society has instilled in us the belief that we cannot simply pursue our desires. In school, we often found ourselves engaging with subjects that failed to pique our interest, all dictated by external authorities. This conditioning transitions into adulthood, where we trade one set of demands—teachers—for another—bosses or managers—restricting our freedom in exchange for a salary.
While some may find joy in their careers, many of us yearn for greater autonomy. Achieving this independence requires the right mindset and approach.
Finding Meaning in Your Actions
The essence of living life on your own terms lies in acting with intention. When I suggest doing whatever you want, I don't mean embracing chaos, as portrayed by Heath Ledger's Joker. Instead, the goal is to pursue a meaningful existence.
For those of us with a sound mind, this concept revolves around envisioning an ideal life and taking actionable steps towards it. The specifics of our aspirations may differ, but common desires may include:
- Increased income
- Self-employment
- Quality time with loved ones
- Flexible work schedules
- A comfortable living environment
- Physical fitness and health
- Freedom to explore personal interests
- A gratifying career
- Fulfilling romantic relationships
- A life imbued with purpose
To truly do what you want, you must align your actions with your inner vision, free from cultural pressures. It's about crafting a unique path rather than conforming to societal expectations.
> “Don’t go where the tide takes you. Build your own ocean.” - Hiral Nagda
Overcoming Ego and Excuses
When you notice someone living the life you aspire to, resist the urge to rationalize their success away. Instead, ask questions and seek understanding. Avoid assumptions about their wealth and explore how they achieved their success.
This mindset shift is vital; making excuses protects your ego but hinders your growth. For instance, I once questioned how Andrew Tate amassed his wealth. Upon researching, I discovered his business model relies on a controversial scheme. Not every wealthy individual operates ethically, but forming biases can blind you to genuine opportunities.
Cultivating a Long-Term Perspective
Consider pursuing your aspirations a lifelong journey. Avoid setting arbitrary deadlines, and instead, commit to making decisions that align with your ideal life. Reflect on where you could be in a year if you dedicated just one hour each day to your dreams. Time invested in meaningful pursuits can yield significant results over the years.
Eliminating Distractions
Many struggle to define their desires due to distractions and the lure of instant gratification. To truly discover what you want, commit to exploring interests deeply. Allow yourself the time to sift through distractions and refine your goals.
Finding Your Curiosity
Post-education, many lose their desire to learn due to the rigid structure of schooling. However, living authentically involves understanding yourself and exploring your interests.
Some of my passions include:
- Skateboarding
- Martial Arts
- Writing
- Literature
- Philosophy
- Psychology
- Music
- Fitness
- Business
- Sleep Studies
- Reading
- Spirituality
Incorporating these interests into my life helps me align my daily actions with my true desires. I carve out time in my schedule to engage in these activities, even if briefly.
By following your curiosity and integrating your passions into your life, you can cultivate a conscious existence filled with personal choice and fulfillment.
Chapter 2: Taking Action
Explore how to break free from societal constraints and take control of your life.
Discover how to define what you truly want in life and take actionable steps towards it.